I am having a really hard time this year with trying to "hide" Father's Day from Charli Beth. I know some of you are thinking
"what the hello for?" Well to be honest, I cannot decide if it is something that I should be hiding. But she is at the "What" "Why" "What for?" stage and most of you know how this is.
Mark, Char and I went to Bowling Green tonight and bought my Dad (may I mention this is my
step Dad) a Father's Day gift but I asked Mark to only call this "Pa Day" for her sake.
Seriously? Should I be doing this. Should I be hiding a day from her? I remember as a child pouting and whining to myself about why I didn't have my real Father around to share this holiday with. I am thankful now and have been for so many years that I do not know him because my sister Ashley and I are truly better off with the Dad that we have.
We truly are blessed now. But am I really just hiding this holiday for my own sake? I really do not know how to handle this.
I just cannot stand to think about Charli questioning herself already at this young of an age of why she does not have anyone to call Daddy. I am broken over this, and am seriously sitting here crying, praying that no one walks in and 911 does not ring anytime soon.
Friends have already asked her where here Daddy is and she just looks at them. She knows that he isn't here, we know this. She asked my Mom about the boy that was in a picture with her when she was baby, and wanted to know his name. Why should she have to ask that? She shouldn't have to. I feel so horrible, not that I brought a child into this world to not have a Dad, but that I know the pain that she will experience throughout her child hood, wondering, dreaming and thinking of what it would be like to actually have a Dad.
It wasn't my intention to actually have her without a Dad, it was a choice unlike for some people. I made this decision, I knew what was best. I could of stayed, but I didn't and thank God I did not. {
Hallelujah! }
We hope and we pray for better days ahead. My better days ahead consist of a family and a man that I know is a blessing to Charli and I.
My heart may ache for Charli Beth now but I know that better days will be ahead of her. She will know in her heart that God gives and takes people in our lives to make us stronger in every.single.way possible! She will know that our lives are better off without someone to bring us down each chance that they get.
She will ask why and about him one day, but for now...this will be celebrated as Pa Day!
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Dear C.B.There are going to be things in life that you will not understand that will break your heart on more than one occasion. You will question why at times, and you will cry at others. But please never let these things make you cold in your heart and think badly of people because of someones mistakes. I pray that I will teach you about the good in people and how to be forgiving of others something that I have never been good at. I pray that you will not always look at a man and think of him badly just because the one man that was suppose to be here in your life is not.
The Lord has already proven to us both that good Godly men that will be wonderful Daddies do exist and are already in our lives. I pray that you will never look down on me for not trying a little more for him to be in your life. This is something that I pray for daily. I knew in my heart that we were not where we needed to be. I knew that not only was I better off, but mainly you were better off. I did not try because of this reason and so many people question my decision on this, although they do not matter...only you do. At times you will not understand why I made this decision, but I will ask you to just pray over it and one day we will have our talk, the talk that makes me sick to my stomach. Just please know that I do my best daily to see that you have the best in everything that I can give you. I've learned from the best; she taught me how to be a strong incredible Mother just as she was during the times that I wanted to know why.
I love you and you will always be my favorite girl in the whole wide world.