a good mommy and a young adult, is it possible?

So, I am starting or trying to plan for my 21st b-day weekend (which is FINALLY next weekend). And I have all the sudden started to have second thoughts on going. I'm not sure why but I always seem to start feeling guilty for going out. Most people wouldnt, or maybe they would? I have no idea. I'm not a mother that can leave my child all the time to run around. Heck I never do. The only times I have left her lately is WORK, WORK, and a bit of extra sleep today because I feel almost overwhelmed from WORK. lol. And i even felt guilt for this. Just like the title says can you honestly be young and be a good mom? I would hope so. Although in others eyes when they see you out and actually trying to have "you" time they think that your ditching your child. I'm not saying this all the time running around thing, like so many young parents do. Because that isnt right in my eyes what-so-ever. Who am I to judge though? I honestly believe that I am a good parent to Charli Beth. But whenever I decided to grow up over night and become the mommy I am today. I left the being young part far behind. Maybe thats the reason that whenever I do go out with friends for an evening..it's so kind of "blah." Since I have totally forgot how to act? haha. Then again, I hate feeling old. I have even stopped talking to and broke up with guys for acting so "old" but then I cant even act young? I plan to have one of the best nights ever with friends and tuck the guilt away for a little bit to have fun. It was just a question that I have been asking myself all day though.. So if you read this...give me your opionions on it.

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if you would like to join me in living up my 21st, just let me know ;o) haha*