I would like to first and bluntly say:
If you do not like my blog or tweets..it's pretty simple, do not read them.Since you are leaving a comment about one thing that I tweeted and one post I have written, it must mean that you are a new follower or you simply just must be blind. Mark and I dated for right around two years, so I am not bringing "some guy" around my child that she does not know. I do not date random people, I really never have because I simply have zero time for that and I do not plan to put my daughter through it. If you must know, we actually met in EMT class and Charli knew him from attending a few classes with me before him and I ever started dating.
Have you ever been in a relationship where you have experienced rocky times? Well this is exactly what him and I have been through. We are not getting back together right now and simply if we were, it would be our business. I can go to the movies with someone that I like or love without my daughter, because I am an adult and I have the right to have "me" time. Even if we do not get back together, we plan to be friends, and so far it's going pretty good. He understands me and my life better than any of my "girl" friends can because he has lived it with me for so long.
Funny thing is, who even says that him and I have broke up more than once? Charli has not been around Mark since before we actually broke up. We do still talk about him, because he loves her and she loves him. In that type of situation you cannot just cut someone from a childs life completely because that will only confuse them even more. I have seen this done with other families, and it is not what I plan to do with Charli. She has the memory of an elephant and she will never forget.
I am also the daughter of a single Mother and have seen more than you can imagine of what can go wrong in relationships. Do we ever know if a relationship is going to last? No.
If it is the most irresponsible thing that you have ever heard, then you must be very sheltered, because I could name so many other things that are much worse then this.
It is clearly impossible for me to have a relationship with someone and for them to not be apart of Charli's life. Anyone that comes into Charli's life loves her first and will always be apart of her life in someway. Just like, I could have kept Charli's Father in our lives but I chose not to for the protection of her. I loved him and kept having my heart broken with false hopes of us being a family because of his drug habits. So I left, so that she would never have to deal with the heart break that I dealt with.
I plan to keep doing my own thing, because I am me and simply Miss Anonymous you are you. We clearly have different opinions on how I should be a Mother. I will never put my precious CB into harms way and if by simply going on date with a friend (for now) while my daughter is asleep is an issue than something is terribly wrong with this world.
I would just like to add that, before you say that you have lost respect for me, know my situation and my story before you even start to judge. Every family, blog, person and relationship is different and you cannot base what I type in one day on my entire life.