Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Why Marriage Was For Me

Lately I have been reading a lot of hate from single women and especially single Moms on facebook about marriage. I'm not sure if this is their way in dealing with that loss of satisfaction of finding their perfect partner or if their vision on marriage is as completely different than the one that I have myself. Throughout my adulthood, I have thrown myself some terrible curve balls and completely sidetracked my self from the path that I had always visioned or myself. Thankfully, the Lord's plan was so much bigger than my own.

As I was reading through my newsfeed the other day, I noticed a quote graphic. I am a lover of those corny things. But this one I'm not going to share because the verbiage just isn't me. It said something about "Once upon a time there was a prince who asked a beautiful princess to marry him and she said no. The princess lived happily ever after. She traveled the world and met interesting people. No one ever said, "go fix me a sandwich!" Then she went to rock concerts, and always puts herself first...." {Not hating on the person who posted this because I love her. But this is my side of my story}

Let me tell you something first of all, if my Husband ever demanded that I "go fix him a sandwich." He would probably have a sandwich upside his red head. No lie. Marriage is not about that.

Marriage is about companionship. Which is something that we all long for. If you say that you are not, then you are blinded by the fact that you are looking for it in other things rather than marriage. You can look for it alcohol, drugs, shopping, even facebook. Because those things can make you feel loved. I am not saying that you do but I know this because I have been there. But they are not real things, that can come home to you every day and give you the support.

Support is a huge reason that I knew that marriage was for me. I wanted someone that supported my decisions and my every move as a parent, or as a being on this Earth. When I was a single Mother I looked for support in all of the wrong places, especially in my work and it failed me time and time again.

Being married does not mean that I cannot go do my "own thing," which I suppose could mean a rock concert. But, let's be honest my rockin' days were over way before marriage life took me in. Now, I have a best friend, better yet a soul mate that I attend concerts with. We just prefer things like George Strait over head banging or such. {Not dissin'...just saying}

We may fight and some days...Heck, I may not even like him at all. But marriage is for me and it is something that we all long for. Maybe not in this moment of your life, or maybe you will never see it for you. But just because it is not for you does not mean that our lives as the ones who have chosen marriage are failed. We do not demand things from one another and even on the days that we long for freedom, we are still blessed to just simply be loved. 


MommyMandy Musings said...

LOVE this!

Anonymous said...

I love this post. I am a single mother now, been divorced a year - not by choice but because he thought the grass was greener on the other side. It SUCKS so bad to be left/abandoned like that. Makes it worse that it wasn't the first time AND things didn't turn out how he thought they would and wants to try to make it work but for me I can't. We were together 12 years and I bet he stepped outside the marriage at least 5 times that I know of and each time I kept taking him back trying to make it work, doing what I needed to, to make it work. I prayed and prayed and cried! But, I know it's all part of God's plan. He hates divorce but I still know it's part of His plan and I STILL have hope that I will find my soul mate out there somewhere. Someone who loves God just as much as me and someone who will be faithful to me and take care of me and my kids like they were is own.
I don't bash marriage because I honestly welcome it again.
Anyways long drawn out post to say I love this post and thanks for sharing! You give me inspiration that there is a soul mate for someone out there. :)

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