Dear Anonymous

I figured that I would go ahead and hit this on the head while it is fresh on my mind. I do not feel like I should have to explain myself to this person what-so-ever, but this blog is about honesty and some of you that have seen this comment may be wondering about the same thing that they are asking.

Anonymous said...

A few posts back you wrote about your breakup and how hard it was for your daughter. I felt very heartbroken for her when I read that post. Recently you tweeted about going out on a date with him again and I would just like to say that is the most irresponsible thing I ever heard and I lost so much respect for you when I read that. You already put your daughter through that once, what is going to happen to her when you breakup for the 10th time. You two need to grow up and stop with the on again off again relationship for the sake of your daughter. It is very irresponsible of you. Something is obviously not right with the relationship or you wouldn't have already broken up more than once.

I don't mean to be mean but as a single mom myself and the daughter of a single mom, it kills me to see women who bring guy after guy in and out of their kids life. It is so very hard on the kid. If you and this guy or any other guy are going to date, you need to keep that out of your daughters life until you are SURE it is going to last.

I would like to first and bluntly say:

If you do not like my blog or tweets..it's pretty simple, do not read them.

Since you are leaving a comment about one thing that I tweeted and one post I have written, it must mean that you are a new follower or you simply just must be blind. Mark and I dated for right around two years, so I am not bringing "some guy" around my child that she does not know. I do not date random people, I really never have because I simply have zero time for that and I do not plan to put my daughter through it. If you must know, we actually met in EMT class and Charli knew him from attending a few classes with me before him and I ever started dating.

Have you ever been in a relationship where you have experienced rocky times? Well this is exactly what him and I have been through. We are not getting back together right now and simply if we were, it would be our business. I can go to the movies with someone that I like or love without my daughter, because I am an adult and I have the right to have "me" time. Even if we do not get back together, we plan to be friends, and so far it's going pretty good. He understands me and my life better than any of my "girl" friends can because he has lived it with me for so long.

Funny thing is, who even says that him and I have broke up more than once? Charli has not been around Mark since before we actually broke up. We do still talk about him, because he loves her and she loves him. In that type of situation you cannot just cut someone from a childs life completely because that will only confuse them even more. I have seen this done with other families, and it is not what I plan to do with Charli. She has the memory of an elephant and she will never forget.

I am also the daughter of a single Mother and have seen more than you can imagine of what can go wrong in relationships. Do we ever know if a relationship is going to last? No.

If it is the most irresponsible thing that you have ever heard, then you must be very sheltered, because I could name so many other things that are much worse then this.

It is clearly impossible for me to have a relationship with someone and for them to not be apart of Charli's life. Anyone that comes into Charli's life loves her first and will always be apart of her life in someway. Just like, I could have kept Charli's Father in our lives but I chose not to for the protection of her. I loved him and kept having my heart broken with false hopes of us being a family because of his drug habits. So I left, so that she would never have to deal with the heart break that I dealt with.

I plan to keep doing my own thing, because I am me and simply Miss Anonymous you are you. We clearly have different opinions on how I should be a Mother. I will never put my precious CB into harms way and if by simply going on date with a friend (for now) while my daughter is asleep is an issue than something is terribly wrong with this world.
I would just like to add that, before you say that you have lost respect for me, know my situation and my story before you even start to judge. Every family, blog, person and relationship is different and you cannot base what I type in one day on my entire life.

Whatcha Wearin' Wednesday

Ah, I should cry myself to sleep since I am posting the most ridiculous pictures of myself but oh well...This would be an all up close and personal shot of yours truly after working third shift, taking CB to school and then going to school myself for the day. {Don't judge, I know it's horrible but it's what ya get!}For some reason, the longer I stay up the chubbier my face gets...No lie. I look like lil miss muffet by the end of the day, not to mention I look dead to the world!!!

Whoa, this shirt makes me look preggers. ugh..I can't win for loosing today.
And here is my comfy outfit!
Tank: Rue 21 $3.00
White Shirt: Walmart less than $5
Jeans: Target Mossimo $19
Flats: Not sure
Earrings: Fashion Bug $1.50

Picture above is the best deal ever for me.
I bought this at a yard sale a couple of weekends ago for
{drum roll please...}
$5.00 -- practically brand new.
The color is actually not so green, but you get the idea.

There ya go!

Smokies 2010

We had a wonderful time in the Smokies this year, as we do every other year! We did lots of shopping, headed to Dollywood and ate at some fabulous restaurants.

This is the first year that we have went to Dollywood and absolutely loved it! We had such a great time there.

Tanger outlet mall has a few new stores but my all time favorite is: Naartjie I love love that store!

Pigeon Forge now has a mellow mushroom, which was delish as always! We also went to a new home cooking style restaurant called "Mama's Farmhouse" (it is right next to Alamo's Steakhouse) Oh my goodness gracious ladies, you must go there. They bring out big bowls of veggies, three meats, and desert to your table, and you get unlimited food. Ahh, it was Heaven.

Here is a few of the pictures:

Quick story about this rose:
My sisters boyfriend Alex got up from the table to go see the score on the UK game and brought Ashley back a rose. Whenever CB seen the flower, she whispered to me that she would like to have one too. I wanted to finish eating before I went to find the "Derby hat lady" as we called her but I wasn't quick enough so Alex brought her a rose back. Charli's face turned every shade of red, her lip quivered, and she had tears in her eyes. It was the sweetest more precious moment, ever. I think that she may be crushing on Alex now. (Look out Aunt Ashley!!!)

Mini-Vacation

We're leaving tomorrow night/Thursday morning to head to the Smoky Mountains with our family for a mini-vacation. This makes the 10th year in a row and the 5th for Charli Beth that we have been.

This is absolutely one of my favorite things about Fall.

It just really isn't fall until we headed down to Gatlinburg and smell that crisp mountain air! This year we are going to DollyWood for the first time, I'll be taking Charli horseback riding, or course some major shopping will take place, and hopefully we will hit up the Dixie Stampede if possible!

I'll be sure to eat a dozen caramel apples for y'all while I'm gone =)

1st year {Isn't she the sweetest?!}

2nd year
3rd year
4th year & one of my favorite pictures of CB, hilarious.
I cross my fingers in hopes that we will see leaves like this again!

Ben & Katie

My heart melts into pieces every single time that I go over and catch up on the latest news of Ben's recovery and read the heart felt words that Katie writes in her blog posts. Their love is incredible, amazing and encouraging it's self.

She is asking for anyone and everyone that can to please send cards of Encouragement to Ben and she will give them to him on October 27th {which marks their 3rd wedding anniversary and 14 months since their accident} I ask that each of you that are willing to go out buy a card or simply write a lovely note to Ben and wish him well.

God has done amazing things in their lives, just as he has in each and every one of ours.

p.s.

Their address on their blog.

Star Student

This post is very very long overdue, and I may just be a horrible Mother for not posting it any sooner, rather than later.

At Charli's preschool (which is at the Elementary school in our county) they have special awards that they do for the children that behave well in class. Star Student, Dream Dollars, Treasure Box, and helpers. Charli has so far been able to participate in all of these awards.
Although, she was the very first one to earn Star Student, which made me one very proud Mommy! I believe I cried and called everyone that we talk with to let them know what she had accomplished!

I know that you're probably thinking "What's the big deal?" Charli has never been in daycare, so I was very concerned with how she would act once in came to a strict school like, preschool. Not that she would actually act bad, but that she would want to play and talk way to much! But her teacher Ms. Lesley brags on her every day. I am so very thankful for this.


Although, don't get me wrong...Charli B informed me one day last week while picking her up that she did get in trouble and had to put her head down on the desk. {It wasn't bad though} Her friend Emily had missed school for a few days, and whenever they were on the carpet a little boy was trying to rip her name tag/picture off, so Charli and another child put their hands over it and {I assume} told him to stop. I actually think it's kinda sweet that she was taking up for her friend?! ha.

She is now on Fall Break and we will be heading to the mountains next Thursday to enjoy some family time! I cannot wait to get my hands on some antiques and whatever else they may have to offer! I cross my fingers that the rest of the school year continues to be as great as this "semester" has!

Whatcha Wearin' Wednesday!

Romper: F21 $8.00
Cardigan: Yard Sale $2
Earrings: F21 #3.80
Watch & Rings same as last week post
These are the earrings, although mine are a green color (that matches the cardigan) & white.

The sandals that I had on with this outfit were:
Target $10
I have been quite the busy little lady this week with work so I've been a slob, new pictures will come next week!
Also, I bought a new camera last week so I will be able to get better shots of my outfits now!
Sorry for the blurriness.

Fishing & Friends

My best friend Taylor and I took Charli Beth fishing this Saturday at a farm near his house. She actually did a lot better than I really thought that she would. CB is the type of girl that will try to throw up at the sight of a bug of jump on top of the couch whenever she thinks that she sees one. But fish may be something totally different with her. She caught about 6-7 catfish and bass, but it probably helped since we took her to a fully loaded pond! She did catch quite a few more than Tay did!

Each bite that she would reel in, she would go "oh oh oh oh oh" the entire time that it was coming up! It was hilarious. She did pretty well casting her line out, although I did have to jump behind her several times so that she did not hook me in the face! This was such a fun trip, hopefully we can do it again soon!

Fishing buddies

My thumb looks deformed, and I almost killed that poor bass because it flopped right out of my hand! Yikes!