Thursday, August 16, 2012

Tough Love.

"I don't want my children to be what I want them to be. I want them to be everything God created them to be."

Some days being a Mommy is the hardest work. It seems that I am the last to go to bed most nights and obviously the first one up. I have watched both babies grow and develop right before my eyes. Sometimes these things are harder than others. Although, I think my hardest thing thus far in parenting in being patient even though I know they can do better.

Lately it seems that I struggle with knowing when to stay calm and let things pass by or when to go out of my way to either encourage or discipline. I feel at times that I may push (Charli) them to hard. It is not because I just want them to succeed in whatever it may be, it is because I KNOW they can and will do better once the push is given. This goes for anything from homework to softball.

I struggle with thinking that I am going to be a parent that makes a sport zero fun. For an example, Charli's softball coach continued telling the girls not to look at the ball when they run. What did my girl do when she hit? She looked. So I yelled out on the field and told the coach, so she could be reminded once again. I was picked on by parents for getting her in "trouble" but in my eyes that wasn't it. It is part of the game, you put your head down and dig those feet to the next base. I know she gets it, because I have watched her. I know that she gets writing her name neat but I also get that she is 6 and gets in a hurry.

I was really praying over this issue the other day while we practiced homework. Char got frustrated at me so I sent her to her room, she came back in wearing a batgirl mask and a super Charli cape saying "I'm ready now Mom" and I could not help but to laugh. Thank you God for reminding me just how cute and innocent she is (because Momma was loosing it.) it was such the grand reminder that kids are kids and even when we tough love them, it works. It may not be the best parenting style but it works for me.


Unknown said...

Parenting is exhausting, but pretty easy years 0-3...but once they can walk, talk, and share their opinions, it is HARD WORK. I'm with's soooo had to figure out when to let it go and when to stay stern....why isn't there a manual for this?

Erin said...

So sweet! :)

Anonymous said...

Why would you do that??? Let the coach do his job and let her learn to listen. Don't embarrass yourself and your daughter. She put a mask on because who she was wasn't ok with you. She hid gerself behind a mask and cape. Yikes, she's only six years old....

Anonymous said...

I as a friend take offense to the comment about Your daughter hiding behind a mask. From the way I read she was having fun and using her bright imagination to dress as a super hero. Sounds as if she has confidence to me and knows how to have fun! The person above should be ashamed for writing such nonsense. We all have our opinions I have stated mine.

Deputy's Wife said...

I'm a tough lovin mama most often than not, and good Lord, I'm way too competitive for recreational teams. You're doing a great job, keep it up!

Kristen said...

I am tough on Jayci too. You are doing what works best for you and your family. Sometimes I feel bad but I know in the end she will work harder. I refuse to let her just give up on things when I know she can do better. Example, she loves softball but she hates playing games. (the other team makes her nervous) But we make her finish the season once she has started. It is important to teach them these little lessons while they are small.

As for the comment above. I don't think the mask and cape were to hide anything. I think they were probably to make her more brave so she could do her homework the correct way. Sometimes we all just need a mask, cape and a little extra super power!

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